Lets be real …
Im sure we have all been in a point in our lives or know someone, who has either been in a relationship, friendship or situationship that starts to become unhealthy. How long have you stayed in that relationship? Do you know when it’s really time to move on? Im gonna be honest I have been in friendships and relationships that are very unhealthy. It took me a while to realize when it was just time to back away and leave them alone. When I finally decided to cut them out my life I truly felt much better!
The first thing you have to do is reevaluate the relationship/friendship and see what it is actually doing for you. I believe that it’s always great knowing what you want out of a relationship before you get into one but that is something that not many know right at the start.
When reassessing relationships and situationships you have to think about what you need and want vs. what is actually happening. In a relationship they’re a lot of feelings involved and sometimes it makes it hard to back away from it. I think there becomes a point in time where you have to think about yourself. Ask your self these questions …
- Are you happy? – When being with that other person do you find your self happy? Now I’m not saying that it’s going to be great all the time. There is going to a point where you butt heads and get into arguments and they are driving you crazy. Although at the end of the day your happiness should still be their even through the ruff times.
- Do they add value to my life? – Now this is a tuff question, whether you are in a committed relationship or a situationship. Although I think the same thought process has to be noticed. Do you feel mentally drained from that person and is being with that person better than sacrificing your joy and happiness?
- Would my life be better without them? – Now you certainly know what kind of person you were previous to meeting them! Do you think that when they came in your life they added more drama and commotion? Are you at the point where you want and miss the person you were before you met them?
- Do you really “NEED” or do you “WANT” them – I think this is something that you really have to step back a revaluate yourself. Are you just in that point where you want the idea of them and overlooking the signs that you need to step away? Or do you NEED them which connects to my question two above, will your life be better without them?
Now I know that these questions are a little intense but I think it goes the same for friendships as well. There comes a point in time where you have to think about yourself and be selfish at one point. They may have been in your life for years but when it comes to changing and affecting you in the worse way it is time to move on!
This is not going to be easy! Especially for people who have been in your life for a while because in a way you built a bond. There is part of you that will try to look at the brighter side and hold onto that person. In some relationships the positives that you were looking for are just not their anymore.
Now that you have read have read this post. Is there that one person that comes to mind when you read this? Are you in a point in your life where you need to reevaluate your friendships, relationships or situationships? No matter what happens everything will be okay!
One last thing to think about, have you taken a step and looked at your self first? May you be part of the reason why it’s not working out?
“sometimes you miss the memories and not the person”
Its be Real ✌🏾