Lets be real …
Relationships are hard work! Nothing is easy about being in a relationship, although when you find the right one to fight for its amazing. I am currently in a relationship and my boyfriend and I have been together for about 10 months now! Let me tell you it went very fast but I’m enjoying every moment of it.
For about 3 months out of the year, we are in a “long distance” relationship. He lives in Georgia and I am in D.C although our first summer apart we made it a priority to see each other! He came to DC and we had a fun ass time, although I didn’t make it to Georgia that summer. I decided to take a week out of winter break and go see him which was soo much fun!
I think in a lot of relationships people see all the good that goes on, the laughs, the cute pictures, and the “MCM” posts. They usually don’t share the rough moments and the honest opinions about being in a relationship with someone they love. A lot of people are scared to say that “we are not okay”
When being in a relationship not only are you constantly learning new things about yourself. You are also learning and taking in new information about a whole different person. With that comes new communication skills, hard conversations, compromise, and trust. There is no set way to do those things, you really have to know who you are as well as work with someone else.
I also think that relationships change a lot in your life. They change where your attention goes, who you spend time with and sometimes even how you act. Balancing time with your “person” and with your friends was definitely a struggle for me! I went from falling in love in the last month of school to summer break, then back to school. At school I have my own room in an apartment with my friends. I will admit this, my boyfriend and I were inseparable we didn’t want to leave each other’s sides.
It was a very new experience for both of us! He was my escape at school. Although we slowly came to realize that too much time together was starting to drive us both crazy. Believe or not we made up a schedule of when we spend the night together … are we sticking to that completely? Somedays. It took me a while to learn how to balance my time with him and my girls! Although I think I am slowly improving in that category!
For those who aren’t in a relationship your time will come! If you are stressing about not being in a relationship I hope you stop! If you are just chilling and doing you keep doing that! That is exactly how I met Chris! I think before entering a relationship you have to have some knowledge of what you want out of someone because no one knows you better than you do!
For some that might be going through your first heart break. Honestly, I didn’t know what I liked and what I wanted until experienced what I did not want and like. Now that isn’t necessarily true for everyone but sometimes its just the case. Times might get very hard, lonely and confusing but I believe that everybody has that person for them somewhere in the world!
A relationship to me is having your “person” that is someone who you can experience life with! Make and share amazing memories together not only the good but the bad too. Someone who will be there for you no matter what, through the laughs, cries, and all the other emotions. Someone who you can tell your secrets too and act like a complete fool with. A person who loves you for you and only you ❤️